We all know that sex can be one of the main catalysts for marriage problems. Still, many people assume that as long as you’re married you’re most likely being satisfied physically on a regular basis. And the assumption may be that a downside to divorce is less, or worse, sex. But a new book called “Sex After… Women Share How Intimacy Changes As Life Changes” written by Iris Krasnow suggests otherwise.

The book is a compilation of interviews with divorced women. A common myth, the book states, is that sex is best when you’re young. However, many older women are finding sex to be much more satisfying as they age.

The book is filled with stories from women who divorced, began dating (or even sleeping around), remarried or stayed single who are now having better sex than they’ve ever had. Many of these women are in their 50’s and 60’s who are now using products, experimenting and enjoying their sex life in a way they didn’t think possible.

Sure, being married means you “know” the person you’re sleeping with. But intimacy is about a lot more than that. You may find, following a divorce or separation, that you’re able to be much more intimate with someone you’re not constantly fighting with. Imagine that…

Krasnow states that female sexuality is of central importance to almost all women, until the day they die. Women are living longer, so they should expect to have sex for many more years.

While there are many real struggles and hardships that divorcees must face, don’t necessarily assume that worse (or lack of) sex is one of them! Southern California is full of interesting places to meet people—get out there! San Bernardino has plenty of hot spots (or even online?) for you to meet someone you’re age and reignite the fire in your life. So what are you waiting for?