Overcoming Divorce Challenges for Stay-at-Home Moms in California

While going through a divorce is challenging for everyone, it can be particularly daunting for stay-at-home moms who have dedicated years to managing the household and caring for the children. The road to financial independence is not always clear, and the process of becoming self-supporting can seem overwhelming.

At Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC, we understand your unique concerns and questions during this difficult time. With over 300 years of collective experience, we know the most successful strategies to secure the futures of spouses who have focused on the home during their marriage. We are ready to help you successfully navigate the transition to a new future during and after a divorce.

Understanding Your Financial Rights

First and foremost, it’s important to get a clear picture of your financial situation. In California, marital assets and debts are divided equally in divorce since ours is a community property state. For stay-at-home moms, this means you have a right to a fair share of all assets accumulated during the marriage, including property, investments, and savings, regardless of who earned the income that paid for the asset or whose name is on the title. It’s crucial to inventory these assets early in the divorce process to ensure that you receive what you should.

Factors That Affect Spousal Support

Spousal support, or alimony, is a pivotal consideration for stay-at-home moms going through the divorce process. When determining spousal support, several critical factors come into play, each contributing to the final decision:

  • Length of the Marriage: Typically, the duration of the marriage significantly influences the length and amount of spousal support awarded. Longer marriages may result in longer support periods.
  • Age and Health: Your age and health condition are crucial considerations. These factors can affect your ability to gain employment and support yourself, influencing the support terms.
  • Earning Potential: The court will examine both your earning potential and that of your spouse. If there's a significant disparity, spousal support can help bridge the gap, especially if you've been out of the workforce for a considerable time.
  • Contribution to the Spouse’s Career: If you've supported your spouse's education or career advancement during the marriage, this should be factored into the support calculations.
  • Custodial Responsibilities: Having primary custody of the children can affect your capacity to work full-time, which might increase the amount or duration of spousal support.
  • Marital Standard of Living: The lifestyle you and your spouse maintained during the marriage sets a benchmark for post-divorce expectations, guiding the determination of support needed to approximate that standard.

Legal Advice and Advocacy to Protect Your Interests

To ensure that property is classified and allocated correctly and that you receive an award of spousal support that is appropriate in light of your situation, it is vital to work with an attorney with the knowledge and skill to advocate the fine points of these issues. Your attorney should be prepared to:

  • Provide a comprehensive evaluation of your case, considering all factors that influence spousal support and investigating to locate and classify marital property
  • Negotiate effectively with the opposing party to reach an equitable property division and support agreement
  • Represent your interests in court, if negotiations do not result in a satisfactory agreement
  • Advise you regarding post-judgment modifications to spousal support, should your circumstances change significantly in the future

For stay-at-home moms, securing spousal support is not just about immediate financial stability, it's about ensuring a foundation for rebuilding and thriving in the next chapter of life. With the right legal support, you can achieve a spousal support order that reflects your contributions to the marriage and safeguards your future.

Child Custody and Support Considerations

For many stay-at-home moms, the lives of their children are the top priority. In California, child custody decisions are made based on the best interests of the child, with an emphasis on promoting health, safety, and welfare. As a primary caregiver, this positions you strongly in custody discussions.

Child support obligations are calculated based on income and the amount of time each parent spends with the children, ensuring that a parent with fewer resources receives consistent financial support.

Re-entering the Workforce

Re-entering the workforce after a divorce can seem overwhelming, especially after years out of the job market. It's essential to start planning for this transition early. Consider updating your skills through online courses or community college programs. Networking and seeking career counseling can also open up new opportunities. Remember, in most cases, the goal of spousal support is to assist the recipient in becoming self-sufficient, so taking proactive steps towards employment is key.

Protecting Your Emotional Well-being

Divorce can take a toll on your emotional health, especially for stay-at-home moms who may feel particularly vulnerable during this time. It’s wise to seek support from a professional therapist. Joining a support group for divorced individuals can also provide comfort and advice from those who have been through similar experiences.

Planning for the Future

Looking ahead, it’s vital to plan for your long-term future. This includes understanding your budget post-divorce, saving for retirement, and ensuring you have health insurance coverage. Creating a new financial plan with these elements in mind will help secure your financial independence and well-being.

Contact Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC

Divorce can seem like a tough mountain to climb for stay-at-home moms facing uncertain futures. Remember, you’re not alone. At Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC, we’re committed to supporting you through every step of this process. If you’re contemplating divorce in California, call us today at 855-426-9111 or online to schedule a confidential consultation. Together, we’ll work to protect your rights and lay the foundation for a brighter future.

Professional Legal Help

Our attorneys are waiting to help you

Our Locations

*We do not receive postal correspondence at this address. Please send any desired material to our Corona office for review and distribution.


The information on this website is for general information purposes only. Nothing on this site should be taken as legal advice for any individual case or situation. This information is not intended to create, and receipt or viewing does not constitute, an attorney-client relationship.