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What happens after I've filed for divorce?

 

Once you file for a divorce and you have filed the petition in the summons, it's served on the other side to the other party. They have a 30-day period to respond to the action. If they respond within the 30-day period, the process of the divorce will begin moving forward. If they don't respond, there are ways to take their defaults and move forward in that manner. We will discuss your options, plan a course of action with you, file the divorce for you, get them served, and start the process of the divorce for you.

If you're considering filing for divorce, you should talk to an attorney at Holstrom, Block & Parke who can provide you the information that you need to understand the process, understand what's going to happen, and how to move forward with your life after the divorce.

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Does it matter who files for divorce first?

 

California is a no-fault state, which means neither spouse is required to prove wrongdoing in order to proceed with a divorce filing. There’s no advantage as the petitioner; there’s no disadvantage as the respondent. What matters is if you have an attorney who can get you through the process, not in which order you go into the process. Holstrom, Block & Parke is capable, proficient, and very good at representing both petitioners and respondents in the legal process. We want to get the best result we can for the client in as short a time as we can.

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How long does a divorce take?

 

People hear misconceptions like, "Your divorce is going to be over in six months." Now, there's a kernel of truth to that. The kernel of truth is the soonest you can be divorced in California is six months and one day after the other side is served with the petition for divorce and the summons. If you're talking about finishing your divorce, you're talking about custody, you're talking about property division, you’re talking about support. Now we have to, unfortunately, look at the practicalities and the realities of today's society.

There are four people that dictate how long your case takes, and how much it costs. You, your ex-spouse, and each of your attorneys. All it takes is one of those people to make the case longer, more emotional, more hostile, and more expensive. The most important thing you need besides having a good advocate, is an attorney that will help you stay on task, make good compromises, and good decisions about when and how to litigate.

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How long do prenups last?

 

Prenups last, usually by their terms, for the entire length of the marriage. However, prenups sometimes include provisions that expire. The most common one might be an agreement that there’s going to be no spousal support unless they are married for at least 10 years. Many people would think that’s a reasonable compromise. Otherwise, prenups are intended to be valid for the length of the marriage.

Prenups are generally a fairly advanced concept. Most family law attorneys would pretend that they understand what they’re talking about when discussing prenuptial agreements. If you’re seriously considering a prenup or, more importantly, you’re entering a divorce where a prenup was created before marriage, you really need to make sure you talk to company counsel like Holstrom, Block, & Parke.

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What is a Prenuptial Agreement?

What is a prenuptial agreement? | Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC

 

Prenuptial agreement is in simplest terms a contract between two parties who're contemplating getting married. It's an agreement that can set out your right and responsibilities in the event of a dissolution.

It's an agreement that can be used to protect your separate property interest. A prenuptial agreement can also provide force spousal support in the event of a divorce and it can do a number of things to basically define your rights and responsibilities during the marriage and in a post-separation or post-dissolution world for you, that's why it's very important that you retain an attorney who is experienced with prenuptial agreements and basically keeps up on the law.

That's something that we do here at Holstrom, Block & Parke.

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The Impact on Your Estate if You Die Before a Divorce is Final

The untimely death of chef and actor Anthony Bourdain has brought to national attention the potential ramifications of a person’s death during a divorce proceeding. In the same vein, it has highlighted the importance of understanding what would happen to your estate if you were to die during the pendency of your dissolution without having made any changes to your estate plan.

As occurred with Mr. Bourdain’s untimely death, he had been separated from his wife of 20 years for a year and a half. Though the pending “divorce” was made very public, it is unknown whether any divorce filing actually occurred,

What if does indeed happen if you have not taken steps in expectation of a permanent separation (indeed some are more permanent than others)? The broad answer to this complicated issue depends on whether your passing occurs before or after entry of judgment terminating your marital status. This discussion describes what occurs under California Probate and Family Law. The rules for these scenarios may be different in other states.

Death Before Entry of Judgment Terminating Marital Status

If you should die before entry of a status-only judgment, the Family Law Court would lose jurisdiction over all issues, except those already adjudicated. In California, this is called Abatement, and it happens automatically in this situation. Under these circumstances, your share of the community property and all of your separate property would pass as if the Divorce had never been filed! This is true, regardless of who originally filed, how long the divorce went on, how long the period of separation, or how hostile the parties were to each other during the process. It is also true regardless of cohabitation with a new significant other, regardless of the length of that cohabitation.

Therefore, your assets would pass to the beneficiaries of your current estate plan, which is usually your surviving spouse. If you do not have an estate plan, your estate, if over $150,000.00, would pass through probate, and your spouse would potentially receive all of the community property assets and a share of the separate property. Any non-probate assets, such as retirement assets and life insurance plans, would pass to your designated beneficiaries, again, normally your estranged spouse.

Death After Judgment Terminating Marital Status

If you should die after a status-only judgment (a provision of California law that allows the divorce to occur before, or separate from, the resolution of the other issues) that expressly reserves jurisdiction over the remaining issues in the case, the Family Law Court would retain jurisdiction and the property division would take place there. The personal representative of your estate would be substituted in your place in the divorce for this purpose, and the Family Law Court would be able to decide the outstanding issues in the case. It is worth noting, that the court’s jurisdiction over custody, child support, and spousal support would terminate automatically upon your death in the vast majority of cases.

Death after a status-only judgment also has a very different impact on how your estate would be distributed. A judgment of dissolution automatically terminates non-probate transfers between former spouses, including wills, trusts, and beneficiary rights under retirement plans. It also terminates the right of survivorship interest in joint tenancies and community property with right of survivorship. Unless the respective wills provide otherwise, the judgment also revokes all testamentary transfers between former spouses and any provision in a will nominating the former spouse as trustee, conservator or agent. However, a judgment of dissolution does not terminate the surviving spouse’s rights as a designated beneficiary under the life insurance policy. While the ability to change a beneficiary of a retirement plan or life insurance policy may remain during a divorce, California law prohibits such a change after the filing or service of Divorce papers.

One issue that everyone should consider with an impending divorce is that if you do not sign documents specifically stating otherwise, your estranged spouse will continue to hold the power, upon your incapacity, to make medical decisions on your behalf and, like in the case of Anthony Bourdain, will be the person to make all decisions regarding the disposition of your remains.

While no-one anticipates their death, the best course of action, always, is to prepare for that eventuality with an updated, current estate plan, which takes into consideration all aspects of your life, including an impending divorce. Sometimes doing nothing is indeed a conscious choice; by way of illustration a person with knowledge of a terminal illness also going through a divorce who chooses to maintain or change his/her estate plan. Sometimes it’s simply doing nothing.

Obviously we recommend that you always make that conscious choice knowing all of the consequences of that choice.

Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC Announce Newport Beach Location

Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC is excited to announce the opening of our new Orange County location in Newport Beach. Our firm has served families throughout Orange County for over 20 years, and we are pleased to be able to assist even more families with the opening of this new location.

With over 300 years of combined legal experience and 6 attorneys certified by the California Board of Legal Specialization as Board Certified Family Law Specialists, our firm has earned a reputation for zealously defending our clients’ interests in court.

Our firm currently serves Orange County and surrounding areas, including CoronaRiverside, Murrieta, and Vista.

Read more about our new office here.

Newport Beach Location:

4940 Campus Drive
Suite A
Newport Beach, CA 92660

Holstrom, Block & Parke, APLC Now Serving Clients in North County, San Diego

Holstrom, Block, & Parke, APLC is excited to announce the opening of our new location in Vista, California. After serving Southern Californians for more than 20 years, our firm is more equipped than ever to assist families in northern San Diego County and the surrounding areas.

Our new office is located directly across from the Vista courthouse and provides a convenient location to meet with clients before and/or after court proceedings.

Our legal team has over 300 years of combined experience. We are dedicated to understanding and serving the needs of our clients and to finding the best possible solutions for their circumstances.

Read more about our new office here.

Vista Location:
314 S. Melrose Drive
Vista, CA 92081

Infidelity & Divorce in California

Why Is It Important To Maintain Civility With Your EX?

Is marriage forever? For the lucky few, yes. Unfortunately, however, the reality is a significant amount of marriages end in divorce. Many relationships end because one or both spouses have been unfaithful. When infidelity occurs, it can make an already tough situation worse, especially when there are children involved. This is because, rather than completely parting ways, parents still have to spend many years, if not a lifetime, co-parenting, interacting with one another, attending events, family gatherings, and the like.

How The California Court Weighs Infidelity During The Divorce Proceedings

In dissolution and child custody proceedings, it may be tempting to assume that such unfavorable behavior would give the “cheated on” spouse an unfair advantage, financially, with respect to parenting time, and otherwise. It may come as a surprise then to find out that, generally speaking, infidelity will not have much of an impact on your divorce and child custody matter. This is because California is a no-fault state.

In California, divorce and legal separation are generally based on “irreconcilable differences, which have caused the irremediable breakdown of the marriage.” This ground is pleaded generally which means that you do not have to “prove” fault to obtain a divorce. In very rare instances, divorce and legal separation can be based on “permanent legal incapacity to make decisions.” Thus, informing the court that your spouse cheated on you will not get you very far. The court will not award you additional support or time with your children because your spouse was unfaithful.

The Specifics Matter – Make Sure You Consult With An Attorney

On the other hand, disclosing this information to the court may hurt you, at least with respect to child custody and visitation. This can occur if you start bashing your ex to the court. A court may, in some cases, feel that you are not co-parenting. This is because although health, safety, and welfare concerns regarding your children are relevant to custody proceedings; your spouse’s ability to stay faithful is not. Please note, you should always contact an attorney regarding the specifics of your case. Even though California is a no-fault state, your divorce attorney may hear other facts in your case that you may be able to use to your advantage.

3 Tips For Parents Communicating With Their Former Spouse

How To Maintain Communication For Your Child’s Sake

Ideally, parents will work together to amicably raise their child and will consistently make decisions based solely on the best interest of their child. Unfortunately, however, most parents struggle, at least to some degree, with “co-parenting”. The first thing to break down when working to raise a child in two separate homes is communication. The below are some helpful tips to consider when communicating with your ex regarding child custody and visitation matters.

KEEP COMMUNICATION RELEVANT

When co-parenting with your ex, it is important to stay focused on the relevant issue at hand, namely, your child. You should not make a practice out of bringing up issues regarding your ex’s personal life unless there is a strong nexus to your child’s safety or wellbeing. Bringing up irrelevant information may, in some instances, result in an unfavorable ruling in your family law matter.

NO “NAME CALLING”

Being disrespectful to your ex, even when it is deserved, will rarely if ever, help your case. While “telling your ex off” may feel good at the time, it is crucial to understand that this correspondence may come back to hurt you in the future, possibly in the form of an exhibit for the Judge to review. Moreover, even if your ex does not bring this information to the court’s attention, it is likely that you will have made your co-parenting relationship worse.

ADDRESS LEGITIMATE CONCERNS IN WRITING

If you have a legitimate concern regarding the health, safety, or welfare of your child, it is important to bring this information up to your ex immediately, preferably in a written correspondence. While it is hopeful that you will not have to go to court over the issue, it is important to create a written record in the event that your ex refuses to work to resolve this issue, and you have to move forward to get relief from the court. On the other hand, if your ex brings up a safety concern regarding the child to your attention, it is important to address that concern, even if it is an irrational one. Blowing off your ex will show the court that you are not willing to co-parent.

Please note, the above are just a few tips and things to consider when co-parenting with your ex. It is important to discuss the specific issues of your case with a trusted family law attorney.

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